Forget those other times when you were rejected or you traded phone numbers but never heard from her again. Get it in your head that you WILL eventually succeed, and start walking towards her like she's a friend you've known for years. Stand straight, smile casually (not a big stupid grin) and get ready to speak clearly to her. If she makes eye contact, look right back at her as you walk up and do not look away. (Don't stare like you're some creep either, you'll freak her out!) Making eye contact and walking up to her like you've known her forever shows confidence.
When you get within speaking distance, say something casual to her. Nothing stupid, nothing funny, just something ordinary. Now, you want to get her talking about what she likes to do, so that you can offer to join her. Of course, if she replies with something that doesn't interest you, consider moving on. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't interest you, BUT there may be other things that she enjoys doing that you also happen to like, so it's your call on that one.
o Say something like "so, how's your day going?" She'll probably reply with something like "good, how's yours?" to which you can reply/ask her, "Good, but I'd rather be (your favorite activity)." This will almost always get a conversation going. Usually after you say this she'll either agree with you that doing your activity would be more fun, OR she'll state what she would rather be doing instead. Either way, you are now free to invite her to hang out with you and do the activity. For example, if she says she would rather be at the beach getting a tan, say "oh yeah, I haven't been there in a month or so myself. Would you like to hang out sometime and do that?"
o If she agrees that your activity is more fun, just say something like "well, would you care to join me next time I go?"
If she agrees to accompany you, ask her if she'd like to trade phone numbers, or offer her yours, or you could ask for hers. Choose whichever one seems right to you at the time. You could also agree when to call or meet again. That makes it easier on both of you.
Be realistic. This either works or it doesn't. Either she'll agree to meet with you sometime or she won't. If not, keep your spirits up and say goodbye just as nicely as if she had agreed. You might see her again, and that time she might be available.
Do this wherever you go. You've got nothing to fear or lose, it's simply a friendly conversation. The worst that can happen is her not being interested in hanging out with you.
Alternate Method
When you get within speaking distance, say something casual to her. Nothing stupid, nothing funny, just something ordinary. Now, you want to get her talking about what she likes to do, so that you can offer to join her. Of course, if she replies with something that doesn't interest you, consider moving on. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't interest you, BUT there may be other things that she enjoys doing that you also happen to like, so it's your call on that one.
o Say something like "so, how's your day going?" She'll probably reply with something like "good, how's yours?" to which you can reply/ask her, "Good, but I'd rather be (your favorite activity)." This will almost always get a conversation going. Usually after you say this she'll either agree with you that doing your activity would be more fun, OR she'll state what she would rather be doing instead. Either way, you are now free to invite her to hang out with you and do the activity. For example, if she says she would rather be at the beach getting a tan, say "oh yeah, I haven't been there in a month or so myself. Would you like to hang out sometime and do that?"
o If she agrees that your activity is more fun, just say something like "well, would you care to join me next time I go?"
If she agrees to accompany you, ask her if she'd like to trade phone numbers, or offer her yours, or you could ask for hers. Choose whichever one seems right to you at the time. You could also agree when to call or meet again. That makes it easier on both of you.
Be realistic. This either works or it doesn't. Either she'll agree to meet with you sometime or she won't. If not, keep your spirits up and say goodbye just as nicely as if she had agreed. You might see her again, and that time she might be available.
Do this wherever you go. You've got nothing to fear or lose, it's simply a friendly conversation. The worst that can happen is her not being interested in hanging out with you.
Alternate Method
Generate a great conversation and get her attracted to you. And on a high note, smile and say: “You know what, you seem cool” (imagine you’re complimenting an 11 year old girl. The dynamic of this compliment comes from higher to lower, not the opposite). “I’ve gotta get going but what do you think we should do to continue this conversation later?"
Weigh your options based on her reaction to your comment. The first option is to sound slightly sarcastic (like the answer is blaringly obvious), smile, and hand her your phone. The second option is to simply ask her that question and wait silently for her answer. Don’t interrupt the uncomfortable silence. Sit through it, hold your frame. Try to do it without moving or flinching. And I mean that literally guys, try not to move at all! This works because standing absolutely still demonstrates that you can endure social pressure, which is huge for building attraction.
If you go with the initial technique, the fact that you hand her your phone puts reciprocity into play. It’s more uncomfortable for her to say “no” and hand the phone back to you than it is to just put her phone number in it. If you go with the second technique, you’re waiting for her to suggest that she give you her phone number, and you’re doing it while showing that you’re a champion who can stay completely composed.
Once you have her phone number don't just leave. Many girls feel cheap when guys do this, like they were just another notch in the guys belt during a night of phone number collecting.
Make her laugh by saying something like: "I promise to call you 500 times tonight at 3am so that your cell phone overheats and burns a hole in your purse"
When she's laughing, tell her you have to take off. It's always good to leave on a high note. This will make her miss you when your gone, and your absence will be more
Always look for a wedding ring first. It would be awful embarrassing to ask a married woman to hang out with you.
• If she's with a guy, it's probably her boyfriend or husband. This isn't always the case, but be careful. Use you head, watch how they interact, and decide what to do. In most cases, it's best to leave her alone. There are millions of other women out there.
• Don't hit on her, except in certain circumstances. Such an example is the clerk at the gas station that you see every morning when buying your coffee. After a few days of seeing her and saying hello as you walk up to the counter, switch your greeting to something else. Say something like "hello, gorgeous" instead. Chat her up, then ask if she'd like to join you sometime for whatever.
• If you end up having a lengthly conversation with her, LISTEN to what she has to say. Being a good listener is key to having a good conversation. Later on, bring up something she mentioned early on and inquire further on that topic. This will show her that you were listening and that you care about what she has to say. Even if you don't care, ask anyway.
• One method that usually works is giving your number first. If you use an excuse such as "I've got to go in a minute. Here's my number if you want to call or text me", and then give your number, she will most likely give you hers. Caution though: Make sure you know your number off by heart - it makes it easier to give and you will probably look a bit stupid if you have to stop and search through your address book, diary, or phone contacts just to find your own number!!
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